We Just Want You To Know...Our Adoption Journey

When our elder girl was 2.5 yo and started going to school, she also started asking if she could have a baby sister (no, not brother) and she has been asking consistently since then.  At that point, I was really just contented to have just 1 child - already a bonus by my standards - and will go through life that way.  Happy. Somewhere around the time she turned 3.5 yo, the hubby also joined in this campaign - asking for a 2nd child.  His reasons were different: what if our girl has to solely shoulder the emotional and physical difficults when we are old and ill?  wouldn't it be nice if she could share it with a sibling?  of course will be make sure we are financially independant but do we really want her to go through it alone?  All these cropped up after his mom passed away suddenly and he felt the comfort from sharing his grieve with his siblings... and felt it was important for our girl to have that support system.  Afterall, relatives can support ...

Who am I? I'm now a full time mom, ex-'Love-My-Job-Like-Hell-Never-Thought-I'd-Quit' Marketeer :) The usual story, took too long after getting married to start a family cos (see above para) and realised that it wasn't that easy to conceive. Traditional Chinese Meds, hormone therapy, IUI, jabs, blood tests and laproscophies over 5 years was really a lot to take. (No, we didn't try IVF). Emotionally it was taxing, lots of mood swings, of course a lot of tears - monthly, when 'Aunty Jane' visits.... [If you are on a similar journey of infertility, you're not alone and don't go through it alone. Share with your husband, your mom, your girlfriends and/or be part of a support group and if you can't find one, start one. It really helps to talk about it and be privy to thought processes shared by others.] Adoption was a remote option of mine - yeah, the usual reasons of 1) I don't know the birthparents (smokers? on drugs? crazy genes?.... ...